Dad update!

Friday I was able to drive to tucson to visit dad for the Fourth of July. I went to see him at 8:15am ish and we talked for about 3 or 4 hours before he "kicked me out." I wanted to give some information about where he's at and some details about how he is. He is in really good spirits, which was so good for me to see. He was smiling and talking my ear off the whole time! Not an exaggeration for those who know him. He wants everyone to know that he is okay. The situation is still unfortunate and it's not good in there by any means, but he is okay! They all are assigned to jobs. Dad's job is in the kitchen. He said its good because he gets to be more picky about what he eats and he gets to eat at a different time which also allows him more time to eat. He cut his hair short. haha. His hair grows naturally toward the middle so it looks like they gave him a fohawk. I told him he looked like uncle Jerry and needed to get his ear pierced. :) He got a kick out of that. He has lost 17 pounds already. He walks 2 miles in the morning and 2 at night around the track they have there. He looked great! When I first saw him Saturday he was limping. He pulled a muscle in his leg playing softball. Apparently he is making friends. :) He also gets to play the guitar a few hours a day in the music room. We are sending him songbooks left and right. He said the biggest enemy in there is time. He only works 5 hours a day and then you have a ton of free time to do whatever. Free time is never good when you don't want to be there. It's a camp style prison, so there are no walls. It's so weird to know they could literally walk away from there. Obviously if they do and they get caught they send you directly up to federal high security prison (not where you wanna be). They sleep in a big warehouse with bunks and I think he said they have a desk space with their own lockers.
We talked about my life..I love my dad so much for making an effort to support me and being there for me in my adult life. He looked at me and told me not to stay here. He said to me "your dad knows you better than you think and you need to go be your own person, and live the life you want." Hearing that was the release I needed to go. The truth is I'm a lot like my dad, I love change, I love being spontaneous, and I'm a passionate dreamer. He gets its..he gets me. So, I have goals in mind that I'm doing everything in my power to reach. I'm excited about the future and I'm even more happy that my dad is excited for me! At about 11:30 he says to me "well I better let you go, there's a bbq today." What? Since when is there a bbq in priz. At least he's taking part in the activities they do have. He's making the best of it and I give him a lot of credit for not curling up in a ball and rotting in there like I might if i was in his situation.
All in All great weekend and that's the gist of how dad is doing right now. He appreciates letters. If you are sending him letters and he hasn't sent you anything back it's because he needs your address and phone number so that you are on his list of people he writes. I will try my best to keep friends and family updated! :) keep dad and my family in your prayers..we are doing our best to keep it together!
FAMILIES STICK TOGETHER IN ALL SORTS OF WEATHER!

My heart hurts for you..

Lately I have been overwhelmed thinking about girls that allow boys to treat them bad. It seems like such a simple concept, yet it's more difficult than we know for the girls who are in those situations. I've come to the conclusion there are two kinds of girls (in this particular case). One, the type of girl that knows the difference and does something about it. Two, the girl that willingly allows herself to be treated like dirt.
I do not understand how a girl can be told she means nothing to a man and continuously go back to him for whatever reason. It baffles me to no end. Obviously there are issues there, but it just makes me so mad that girls don't know that difference and act on it. It infuriates me even more the girls that know the difference and do it anyway. I have personally met girls that think this is normal, that its ok. Yes it makes these men scum, but these women are allowing these men to be scum by condoning it. These are the troubles girls that ruin relationships and marriages and their own reputations and wonder why people are calling them skanks. This is not an attack this is venting and frustration that somewhere down the line someone didn't do there job to teach woman self respect and men how to treat women.

This may not fit perfectly, but I like it.


I know a girl
She puts the color inside of my world
but she's just like a maze
Where all of the walls are continually changed

And I've done all I can
To stand on her steps with my heart in my hand
Now I'm starting to think (SEE)
Maybe it's got nothing to do with me

Fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too

Ooh, you see that skin?
It's the same she's been standing in
Since the day she saw him walking away
Now she's left
cleaning up the mess he made

So fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too

Boys, you can break
You find out how much they can take
Boys will be strong
And boys soldier on
But boys would be gone without warmth from
A woman's good, good heart

On behalf of every man
looking out for every girl
You are the guide and the weight of her world

So fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers be good to your daughters, too
So mothers be good to your daughters, too
So mothers be good to your daughters, too.
Boys, you can break
You find out how much they can take

-John Mayer